Self-compassion is allowing yourself to be warm and understanding to yourself when you feel you are suffering, failing or feeling inadequate in some way. This is instead of ignoring your pain or indulging in self-criticism.
Self-compassionate people recognise that being imperfect, failing and experiencing life difficulties are inevitable. They tend to be gentle with themselves when confronted with painful experiences, rather than getting angry when life falls short of set ideals. People cannot always be or get exactly what they want. When we deny or fight against this reality, our suffering increases in the form of stress, frustration and self-criticism. When we accept this reality with sympathy and kindness, we experience greater emotional composure.
Being kind to yourself may involve focusing your energy on ways to ease the pain and can involve comforting and caring actions. It can provide a helpful perspective on the difficulty or help you to have the strength and courage to take necessary actions to address the issues at hand.